I am going to ask you a question and I want you to really think about the answer before you respond. It’s not a loaded question, but it’s one that will require some introspection.
Are you happy?
Seems like a simple enough question to answer, right? However, the majority of people will quickly answer ‘yes’ and after they have responded, they will likely start to contemplate their life and wonder if they are TRULY happy.
Others will answer ‘yes’ and wonder what the true definition of happiness is.
Several will answer ‘no’ and will start to think about the areas of their life that make them unhappy and wonder how they can change their circumstances.
I ask this question because several days ago I was in my car after a phenomenal workout and I was thinking about all of the things I had on my ‘to do’ list for that day. I was alone and although I didn’t realize it initially, I was smiling. I glanced at myself in the rear view mirror and saw that I was smiling and it hit me like a pie in the face.
I was HAPPY.
It wasn’t a fleeting happiness either. It was something that had been lurking in the shadows of my subconscious for some time, but I had never acknowledged it because I never realized it was there. My lack of realization was likely a result of many years of misery in an unhappy marriage and even more years being angry with myself for being overweight. It had been so long since I felt happy that I had forgotten what it felt like.
The realization make me smile even more and I took a few minutes to think about all of the changes I made in my life over the last few years. I felt proud of my accomplishments.
Getting divorced wasn’t a walk in the park. It was probably one of the most challenging things I’ve had to go through. Dealing with the emotional repercussions of the separation, the impact on my children, my lifestyle & finances; it was a huge transition and it took a lot of getting used to. Regardless of the stress and lifestyle changes, I don’t regret my decision. It was the best thing I could have done for myself because it took me out of an emotionally abusive and toxic situation and allowed me to discover who I was all over again.
It was through this self-discovery that I was able to find myself and realize my true potential. I took an inventory of what I wanted in life and set out to accomplish my goals. I was able to finally get into the frame of mind needed to lose the weight that was holding me down emotionally and physically for most of my life. I developed even closer relationships with my children. I stepped up my game and have been able to expand my role at work which challenges me further. I met Robby, who is the most wonderful man I have ever known.
The realization that I was genuinely happy sent a flutter through my soul. It was the most wonderful feeling of contentment that I had ever known.
So, when I asked you whether you were happy, what was your response? If you are happy and in a good place in your life then KUDOS to you!
If you are not happy - think about the things, people or situations in your life that are preventing you from achieving your true happiness potential. Try to find solutions to help you overcome these obstacles to happiness and get past them.
If you’re not sure how to do that, talk to a friend or loved one about how you’re feeling. Establish goals and put a game plan in action to help you achieve these goals.
Keep in mind though, that happiness comes from within and it can happen NOW if you let it. Once you set your path, create positivity in your world and focus on your end game. Enjoy the journey and find happiness as you venture through it.
Bee healthy. Bee happy.
Bee healthy. Bee happy.